Found this video by Paul that's quite helpful in case anyone else has similar problems
i think ego mean doesnt accept advice or suggestion or strategy & just think of themself. They just want to play with their own way & sometimes in gigantic ego they think they are good & fault their partner for every mistake.@HN52354
You posted a video in a different thread (Post videos of yourself playing). Are these players your group you mention here? What do you mean with her ego problem?
She told me she didn't enjoy the mixed doubles we played together because her partner seemed annoyed at her and kept telling her to go to the front. I had to explain to her that in mixed doubles it's normal for the woman to be at the front since guys tend to be physiologically faster/stronger (he was also way better than her but didn't say that lol).
If you are the “better” player in a pair, the only scenario that a “unbalanced” match is better than a balanced one is you can take advantage of the weaker player(s) of the other team. Even this is debatable as the quality of the match may be too bad to be rewarding.So I couldn't quite implement the strategies yesterday since I only had 2 games partnered with her and spent the rest of the time with other partners. Like I said, she has a bit of an ego problem so need to wait until we lose a couple games before she'd probably be willing to try my suggestions
BUT... I visited a great club tonight and made an interesting observation. I played doubles with people around the same level as me and the games were so much smoother compared to when I play with my Saturday mixed ability group. I thought the latter would be easier since there's weaker players. I have a couple different theories for this:
Mixed skill level doubles can be harder because:
- Since everyone was around the same level, there were minimal errors and points were won through tactic/placement and speed
- People were more experienced and knew how/when to rotate --> good synergy since you knew what to expect from each other
- More 'predictable' shots e.g. knew they would smash after a lift so it was easier to defend since we could anticipate what was next
Been able to learn a couple things from my reflection which both partners can work on- communication and discussing expectations with each other! Seems like the easiest thing to work on to improve your game since you can't expect each other to suddenly get better
- Don't always know if your partner will get the shot (speed, might miss, or lack communication about who should get it)
- If they do get the shot, they might make an error or place it somewhere you'll easily get killed by the opponent
- They might not be familiar with rotations/positioning --> more gaps/ have to cover more area
- Might not have good communication --> you might get the shot too late and not have enough time to position yourself or think about where to best place it
- Basically, easier to lose points through errors but also easier to score points through errors
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Yep, here female players will simply tell their male partners that they want to “doubles” as opposed to “mixed doubles” to announce their preference. It’s very normal and guys almost always oblige (whether that will win them games is a different storyI can understand her. In average club level it is called "mixed doubles" to place the woman all the time at the net. It's clearly not mixed doubles. As somebody who play mixed doubles since years with a fixed partner and got specific mixed doubles training, I can tell that this is the method how somebody want to win a game without involving the female much. IMO mixed doubles is very tactical, you have different rotations for the male and the female. The female need excellent reading skills in the front court, a superb defence/counter attack etc. to get the attack place it into gaps to provoke the lift.
I would also say that this kind of playing is very dangerous for the female, especially for somebody who is brave and can't take care of herself. I played douzens of games where I smashed females in her face. Glasses flying around the court, hitting hard close to the eye, bruises on throat or chest...I don't mention this to show how badass I am. It's more my experience how dangerous it is when males place a female all the way at the net. Even the male is strong, they will be unable to only play shots down. Trust me, I know how to prevent this. For me in training/club nights a totally no go. Even if I need to play with a significant weaker female, I would always play level doubles for two reasons.
1. As the better player on court it is more important to me give somebody the chance to improve/discover their weakness instead of winning a meaningless club night game and bring somebody into a potential dangerous situations for their health. If I want to win, I will work hard, but will never ask somebody to stand in the front all the way. If I want to win but can't treat my partner as a equal person with respect, I should refuse to play.
2. Mixed doubles needs much more personal rotations, specific solutions and asks the female for some skills, which you will never find in a beginner female. If you think as a guy you are such a stallion on court and need to suppress the female in such manner, you should better play MS, you are not that type of guy who should play mixed doubles or something what you think should be mixed doubles. I worship my female partner the same way as a male in MD and see her as equal. Never forget the lady is at chess the strongest.
Yep, here female players will simply tell their male partners that they want to “doubles” as opposed to “mixed doubles” to announce their preference. It’s very normal and guys almost always oblige (whether that will win them games is a different storybut again, people care about different things when playing)
We are talking about USA aka badminton desertIt would be better if they at least learnt the correct term. As far as I know, "Levels" is the correct term for when it's not playing mixed
At 2:00 in the video it's exactly the situation I was describing where I'm not exactly sure when to move back and her back court shot gets killed.
Yup exactly what @Budi said. She has blamed me for ducking instead of getting similar kill shots (I don't want to get smashed in the face)
If I need to oblige somebody to something she don't want, I put myself over my partner in every aspect. That is for me not an enviroment for both to enjoy the game. That's for me one of the most important aspects in doubles. If I can't enjoy it with a partner together and need to oblige my partner to make it a better game for myself, I should refuse to play.Yep, here female players will simply tell their male partners that they want to “doubles” as opposed to “mixed doubles” to announce their preference. It’s very normal and guys almost always oblige (whether that will win them games is a different storybut again, people care about different things when playing)
never argue with a girl. You wont be & never be able to win agains them in argument.... Lol....Yep, here female players will simply tell their male partners that they want to “doubles” as opposed to “mixed doubles” to announce their preference. It’s very normal and guys almost always oblige (whether that will win them games is a different storybut again, people care about different things when playing)
its all depend on what kind of shot do you play with agains weaker opponent. Sometimes its argueable do we bully the weaker or not. I myself had this argument & didnt realize that as i dont want to bully the weaker, i return the shuttle right at the good player so its very obvious i didnt aim the weak one. But many times it kill myself & give easy shuttle to the good one all the time. So now my thinking is like this.If you are the “better” player in a pair, the only scenario that a “unbalanced” match is better than a balanced one is you can take advantage of the weaker player(s) of the other team. Even this is debatable as the quality of the match may be too bad to be rewarding.
Btw for future reference since the terms are fairly new to me, how do you differentiate between mixed doubles (gender) and mixed doubles style (one player tends to be front and one player tends to be back)?
Similarly when you're playing level but want to differentiate if it's all women or mixed gender?
The front court player role is much more important in doubles and a lot people don't credit the net play much. If somebody can't clear from the midcourt, how should this person excel in the front court? I don't get this.In terms of my friend who played the mixed doubles at the club, the guy could've said it a bit nicer and taken time to explain why it would be an advantage for her to be at the front.
If your partner is unable to be enough for you to play level doubles and don't fit into that competitive game, it is better to don't include her or play level doubles with her and accept that this won't be the game you want. Teaching other people crappy tactics to make it better for yourself is a no go. Doubt that anybody who can't clear from the midcourt has some strength to catch up in a competitive game.Honestly though, we were playing womens doubles before that and I also told my friend to take front. She's not bad with drives since her reflexes are pretty good but she can't even do a clear... I mean, even when she's hitting from mid court she can't clear to the back... So since we were playing a more competitive game, I think it's fair to go on what the strengths/weaknesses are.
Even in level doubles it's possible due shot selection and tactic to get the prefered person to the front. I have seen women who will never learn to play something effective from the back, because others prevent them to make experiences in this area, because the club night game is more important than giving others the chance to learn. A simple simple flick serve will make the whole pair struggle.I played a lot more mixed games (gender wise) that night and they were positive experiences. No one ever told me I should be at the front just because I'm a girl. Almost all the games I played were "level" because my partner and I were similar. There was only one game where we started level but after a few points I offered to take front because I knew he was better at back court and we were playing competitively.
Nobody will tend to be in the front and one in the back. It's just and advance and more complex way to play level doubles. I suggest to learn to play a proper level doubles as base for serious mixed doubles. Otherwise you will slip fast in average club play in the woman at the net which can't play the back. After that I also recommend to just play mixed doubles with a friendly and worshipping advance mixed doubles male. There is a lot untruth which is spread in doubles and for mixed doubles the people who don't have a clue to play a proper level doubles spread more rubbish about mixed.Btw for future reference since the terms are fairly new to me, how do you differentiate between mixed doubles (gender) and mixed doubles style (one player tends to be front and one player tends to be back)?
Similarly when you're playing level but want to differentiate if it's all women or mixed gender?
Ah I see. Must be a fairly common misconception or people are doing it to win easily which further reinforces it.
I think it might've been because it was only the second game in a new club and they hadn't quite judged our level or thought we wanted to play together.
Also, I was wondering why other intermediates don't communicate and say "yours" or "mine"?
I get that if you're a pro maybe you know who'll take it. Normally I'm the one that will communicate so maybe my partner doesn't have a chance to? I also understand that it doesn't happen often because usually the positioning makes it clear who'll get it but I've watched games that could've benefited from communication yet no one says anything?