this is indeed a tough one. while playing with my wife, i have learned a few things: when playing with her: - keep my mouth shut. very difficult to do sometimes, but at least try to do it. - use some humor - if she wants to play regular doubles, don't force it even if opponents are good. if she happens to give a loose half court shot to the other side, just dug and move on to next point. act like nothing happened. no big deal. - winning is not everything - use some humor. when playing against her: - use some humor - don't make a it too competitive a game. - if one side is stronger, it better be her side. - if your side is stronger, let go a few 1/2 court so she can smash on your a few times. - pretend to be trying but yet still loses the match. - use some humor use some humor. in general, women will pick a stupid, brainless but funny guy over a smart, competitive serious guy any day. it also helps if you are good looking as well. insert in appropriate places, please.
No wonder all the girls want to play mixed with me..."stupid, brainless but funny guy" (I'm the butt of every joke).
I had the same problem when playing against my wife so to keep my home life (and *** life ) healthy I started to smash exclusively to her male partner. There is a slight twist to my situation, however. I get annoyed at her sometimes because she seems to always play better against me. She doesn't commit the same silly mistakes that she does when we are partners
My post reflects what Dedicated said in his post "We are both very competitive, enjoy long rallies, equipped with..." "It was a fun and competitive match with both sides wanting to win, and we..." I'm just taking Dedicated's word on what happened...I don't know if everyone on the court wanted to win or not. Can you imagine both guys using Kwun's method, both trying their best to lose without looking like they're trying to lose... madbad: I didn't say take badminton over marriage/relationship. I am just saying (to the wifey) don't let feelings in terms of frustrations, and humiliation get in the way when you lose. Why bother playing if you just want your spouse to feed you the shuttle or not hit to you at all? Sorry to make it sound so bad, but someone's got to make the effort to look at it from different angles.
I can imagine that because I play with players that lose the 2nd set or make it close all the time. Thanks for the clarification. I thought you were a ruthless Badder.
QUOTE=kwun]this is indeed a tough one. while playing with my wife, i have learned a few things: when playing with her: - keep my mouth shut. very difficult to do sometimes, but at least try to do it (smokers chew gums and eats carrots to quit smoking; badders chew gums to mask the outburst of XYZ words). - use some humor (honey, that was a good try!) - if she wants to play regular doubles, don't force it even if opponents are good. if she happens to give a loose half court shot to the other side, just dug and move on to next point. act like nothing happened. no big deal. (see honey, we are in this together, through thick and thin . . . just like when I proposed . . .) - winning is not everything (being happy, funny and sad at the same time) - use some (more) humor (let's get BBQ goose from the local Chinese BBQ Shop tonight). insert in appropriate places, please. [/QUOTE]
What's more important, Badminton or your marriage? 1-5 year marriage = Marriage is more important!! 6-10 year marriage = Ummm, they're both important 11-20 year marraige = Definitely BADMINTON !!! 21-30 year marriage = Neither's important. Too old and creaky for these badminton or marriage games.
Must master the art of false hope of winning knowing yr wife is the weakest link u have the upper hand play the game to like 16/16 and take the winning shot off yr wife. The game actually gets more Fun as u try to manlipulate the score May actually end up losing the game but hey, u have the perfect cover as she should notice you were going easy on her. If you win she should be happy as it was a CLOSE game that could have gone both way.
hey... mrs. badrad and I have been married 26 years... not too creaky or old for badminton or marriage games... mrs. badrad takes it in the head once in a while, as do I when she gets the opportunity. we will just get over it since we both know, that's the way we play if we really want to win. at the end of it all, a few hits here and there don't mean a thing.
Now I know why your hand is "BadRad", you are one bad and rad man, Sir. So is your wife, bad and rad. You are both bad to the bone and rad to the...errrrr...rad to the max?
Thank you for asking, but unfortunately, not all is well.....2 nights after the incident, I called my wife on her handphone and spoke to her... I asked her if she was now ok and ready to speak to me again... after a few days we were back to our regular routine until a small petty quarrel came up again, and she remembered our badminton incident and said that I still had not said sorry :crying: ... I was the one who initated the call and made the first move...... isnt that an implied sorry already? Does she want me to go down on bended knees and apologize fprofusely? Looks like she still insists that she is 100% right and I am 100% wrong.... cant she admit that it takes 2 to tango and that she is partly to blame...? Anyway, my wife is currently resting a sore knee so I have been playing badminton on my own recently.... In due time I hope we can joining our friends again....but when that happens, I will make sure I follow all the tips on this thread... and will also make sure that my wife gets to read this thread too so that she will see the other side of the coin....thanks to everyone who wrote in....
hm this part sounds wrong. trying to forget that she is partly to blame would be a good idea wouldnt it? but anyway dont sweat it. wish u all the best. have a nice lovely patch up soon
I had a great chuckle reading this thread. Not because of the problem but rather the replies given. (esp the one about the words women use, loved that one). Ok here's my 2 cents. Forget about the badminton thing ok. It's gone in the past. I suggest that not only you forget about it, but also your spouse. However learn from it don't make the same mistake again. Looking at each others fault don't make a marriage. Forgive and forget. Not always easy because we tend to forgive but never forget and hence we've not forgive at all. Love. I can't stress how important this is. Why? You love your spouse enough to get over yourself (ok not quite the right word, but rather to give way), and vice versa? This is a 2 way thing. If your spouse is reading this i hope she takes note of this too. Communication is the key. Saying sorry is a good thing, changing yourself afterwards is even better. A old friend told me a chinese saying. "A couple who start quarrelling at the head of the bed will make up at the foot of the bed" The meaning behind it is the communication and time. Time represented by the length of the bed from head to foot. Which is worse those who have an arguement and then go cold turkey on each other or the example above? Communication is the key. These things take time. Seriously badminton is no longer an issue and i know you realise that you have more important things to worry about, especially looking after your spouse seeing that she has a bad knee. Get some medicine for her you plonker. (sorry couldnt resist adding that one in). Showing that you care breaks all barriers. Wish you all the best. Have a long and happy marriage.
